The stealth methods used by narcissistic leaders and managers can create emotional turmoil for those around them. Name calling, talking down to employees, sexual harassment, disinformation, using the ‘silent treatment’ for those who have slighted him are just some examples of the subtle controlling techniques that gradually but consistently erode a normal workplace into one that is cancerous. And just as with cancer in the body it can spread its malignancy throughout the organization.
Narcisstist generally will portray a false image of themselves, this is to protect themselves from others – let’s face it, few people will admit to seeking out bullies to hang around with at work.
Researchers have found that a narcissist reacts much more emotionally than a non-narcissist, sometimes with narcissistic rage when his (or her) ego is threatened.2 Social comparison information is especially salient as the narcissist processes social information in terms of its relevance to the self, that is, he reacts to negative feedback with more anger and aggression and lower self-esteem than a non-narcissist.
In fact his mood and self-esteem fluctuations can usually be attributed to social comparison information.
Guilt rarely features in their behaviour, guilt would infer that they have done something wrong when actually what they try to do is push the blame onto another. They themselves feel shame.
They rarely brag either – favouring more to drop information in to conversations so appears totally natural and faultless. They feel that the rules at work don’t apply to them.